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How to Choose a Vibrator

The truly amazing array of vibrator styles, sizes, and materials can be both inspiring and a little daunting. Finding the perfect vibrator may take some 
self-loving homework. Answering these few simple questions can help cut through the information overload and prevent buyer's remorse.

  • What do you want to use it for? Do you want to use it on your clitoris? Do you want to put it in your vagina or anus? Since just about anything that vibrates feels good on or around the clitoris, phallic-shaped vibrators suitable for penetration can also be used outside the vagina if the vibration is strong at the tip. Do you want both the full feeling of penetration and that all-important clitoral buzz? Dual Action Vibrators mean never having to choose one feeling at the expense of the other.  If you intend to use a toy for anal insertion, make sure it has a flared base so it doesn't slip all the way in. While there are vibrating sex toys made especially for anal use, most are not, so it's best to get one specifically designed for anal play if that's what you fancy.  

  • How strong do you want your vibration to be? If you've never used a vibrator before, this is a tough question to answer with certainty, so prepare to experiment! If you masturbate with a firm rub on the clitoris rather than a light touch, you're more likely to appreciate a strong vibration.  Pick a toy with a variable speed control so you can play around until you discover just what amount of vibration starts your motor. After some initial investigation, you'll be ready to hone in on your vibrating dream date orgasm.  

  • How big do you want it to be?  Discreet purse-sized sex toys like the Pocket Rocket hold a lot of appeal for orgasms on the go. If it's never going far beyond your bedside drawer, size may not be a concern. Plug in vibrators are not portable, but offer the most bang for the buck by outlasting their battery-powered cousins by years. If you plan to use the vibrator for penetration, the girth of the toy may be as crucial as the intensity of the vibrations. If you're not sure how much girth you want, go smaller rather than larger so you know your new vibrator will fit.  

  • What's your aesthetic? Say you've whittled the choices down to two or three contenders, using all available information; now it's time to cast rational thinking aside and pick the one that tickles that sexy part of your imagination. It may be the prettiest one, the kinkiest one, or the most comforting and familiar one. Desire and aesthetic are deeply personal and entwined; pick the vibrator or vibrators that speak to you.

Excerpted from Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide, by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah

How to Use a Vibrator:

Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm—and the powerful, consistent stimulation of a vibrator delivers like nothing else can. For those unfamiliar with the delicious buzz of vibration, these pleasure-providing sex toys can be a little daunting. Before you buy, check out our How to Choose a Vibrator for great tips on choosing the sex toy that's right for you. Once you've got your vibrator of choice in hand, it's time for the fun to begin.

  • First, set the mood. Give yourself a block of time to play with your new toy, put in some relaxing music. You might feel more comfortable using a vibrator alone for the first time, so you can get used to your body's response without having to think about a partner at the same time.  

  • Run it along your body. No need to rush to the clitoris with that new vibe. Get used to the feeling first by running it over your body—try it on your nipples, thighs and or anywhere you're inspired to explore.  

  • Add the clitoris. When you're feeling turned on, try holding the vibrator against your clitoris. Some women find the vibrations intense the first few times; if this is true for you place a towel between you and your toy or use it over your underwear.  

  • Experiment with your sex toy. Vary the pressure, the speed, or the position of the vibrator to discover what feels the best to you. The clitoris has about a jillion nerve endings (okay, more like 4,000), and is often most responsive to vibration. Any vibrator, even those long skinny ones that look great for penetration, can be used on the clit. You might find that as you get more warmed up, you like more intense stimulation. But by all means, try that toy anywhere that feels good.  

  • Add extras. If you really like G Spot play or vaginal penetration combined with clit stimulation, try one of our Dual Action Vibes. And though the vaginal walls aren't as sensitive to vibration as the clit, your vibrator is sure to double as a dildo, especially if you choose a toy made of a soft material.

·        'Don't Give Up' Tips

o        A drop or two of lube, like Liquid Silk, will make your vibrator forays deliciously slippery.

o        Men like vibes, too!

o        If sharing your sex toy, using it anally, or just to make cleanup easier, slide a condom on it first.

o        Clean your vibrator with soap and water after use.

 G-Spot and Female Ejaculation


The G-spot is a mass of spongy tissue wrapped around the urethra, which can be felt through the front wall of the vagina.  During arousal, it fills with fluid and has a texture that can feel bumpy or crinkly. To find your G-spot, insert a few fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina and pull forward towards the pubic bone. While the size and sensitivity of the G-spot varies greatly, pressure on the G-spot can cause some folks to ejaculate fluid. This fluid is different than urine and is similar to prostate fluid.

  • Use fingers to rhythmically stroke in a “come hither” motion. Thumping, tapping or vibrations can feel great too.

  • Curves are a good shape to stimulate the G-spot. Check out toys like the Nubby G.

  • Try a combination of G-spot stimulation and clit stimulation.

  • Some women prefer indirect stimulation; try G-spot stimulation through your anus, or by pressing down on your belly just above the pubic bone.

  • Experiment with different positions during penetration.

  • A full vagina may block ejaculate, so try pulling out toys, fingers, etc. when you orgasm and bear down.

  • G-spot response varies dramatically, so enjoy all the sensations – don’t make it a quest.


The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible or liable for any injury or damage that may result from actions taken from these suggestions.



P-Spot Stimulation


The P-spot, or prostate, is an almond shaped gland located just below the bladder. The prostate’s function is to produce fluid that helps semen travel through the urethra during ejaculation. During arousal, the prostate enlarges, which can make it easier to feel. When aroused, some P-spots can feel similar to the muscle between the thumb and forefinger (when tensed). To find your P-Spot, insert a finger or fingers 2-3 inches into your anus and gently explore the area towards your belly button with a “come hither” motion.

  • Try different techniques like stroking, massaging, tapping, vibrating or gentle thumping.

  • Play with your perineum; tapping here can access your P-spot indirectly

  • Try using toys with a curve

  • P-spot responses vary a lot. Try not to be goal oriented; instead enjoy each new sensation along the way.


The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible or liable for any injury or damage that may result from actions taken from these suggestions.



Male Masturbation


How do I use Penis/Vacuum Pumps?

  • Pumps are intended to enhance masturbation and help erectile difficulties and to enlarge the penis. Pumps can be used in other places on the body such as the breasts and nipples.

The pump creates a vacuum around the base of the penis and draws blood into the area, sensitizing the area. The penis will swell slightly as a result of the increased blood. When the pump is removed, the area will return to its pre-pumped state. The pump induced erection can be maintained by wearing a cock ring right after the pump is removed (do not exceed 25 minutes with the ring on). Additionally, you may find the use of a cock ring enhances the seal.


To use:

1.       Apply a GENEROUS AMOUNT of lubricant around the base of the penis – this creates an air seal for the vacuum.  The lube will also keep the skin moist and prevent skin from adhering to the sides of the pump.

2.       Hold the cylinder against your body so that it encases the penis.

3.       Gently squeeze the pump handle or bulb until enough suction is created. GO SLOWLY!

4.       If you pump while the pressure is low, the sensation will resemble sucking. Some people enjoy warmth while they are pumping (bath, warm water, etc).




The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible for any damages or injury that may result in following the above instructions. They are for information purposes only.


Why use lube??


  • Lube is designed to increase the slickness and decrease friction between moving body parts, including condom-covered genitals. Lube is designed to enhance sexual play and is essential for anal play. The wetter the better!!!!


  • What type of lubricant is right for me?

There are many brands and types of lubricant  


·         Pros: Highly versatile, perfect for internal and external use. Tend to irritate genital tissues less than most other lubes. Rinses off and out of the body easily. Compatible will nearly all toys.

·         Cons: Tend to dry out, leaving the area feeling sticky/tacky quicker than if a silicone lube was used. Not effective in water (hot tubs, showers, bathtubs).

           Glycerin: Many water based lubes utilize glycerin, a sugar-based chemical designed to increase the viscosity (slipperiness) of the lubricant. Lubes with glycerin (especially gels) are excellent for anal sex activities because they remain in place. Not for women with chronic yeast infections.


·         Pros: Provides extra “slipperiness” and last a long, long while in very small amounts. They are an excellent choice for water (shower, hot tub, bathtub), as the lube will remain slick. Also good for anal play, as they remain effective for long periods of time. Make excellent moisturizer for the skin and can be used as massage gel.

·         Cons: Do NOT use with silicone toys as they will damage your toy. May take longer to clean off. Costly.

 SPECIALTY LUBES: Flavored lubes are fantastic for external use, especially for oral sex. Generally water based, some contain glycerin or other sugars (which may cause irritation internally). Warming lubes are preferred by some to enhance natural wetness or to increase sensitivity during intercourse. Others swear by the tingle of a cooling lubricant 


Bondage and Role Playing: Spanking Implements

There are 4 things to look at when deciding what spanking implement to purchase:


·   Flexibility. How flexible is the implement? Paddles are generally the least flexible, whereas crops and floggers are more flexible. Flexibility determines a lot of the impact feeling the implement will have.

·     Weight. How heavy is the implement? The heavier the implement, the harder you will have to work to get a proper stroke. Additionally, a heavier implement will tend to have a harsher impact on contact.

·    Contact Surface. Where are you planning to use the implement? Paddles are better for use on larger, more padded areas such as the ass, whereas crops can be used lightly on the breasts, balls, inner thighs and heavier on the ass. Floggers are generally used on the ass, though in an experienced hand can be used on the breasts or inner thighs.

·         “The Stroke”. The majority of the way the implement will be felt will be determined by The Stroke of the user. It is important to practice BEFORE ever using an implement. Try it first on the back of your hand and on your own sensitive areas to get a feel for what it will feel like when used. The harder you swing, the harder the impact. Aim 3-4x, strike once. 


Safety Tips:

·         PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE!!!! Before you try the implement on your partner, practice on yourself first. Once you think you have it down, practice on pillows. Make sure to avoid hitting non-padded, exposed areas such as the middle of the back, near the kidneys.

·         If it looks like sunburn, it’s a good time to stop! Unless you are well versed and highly experienced in spanking, it is recommended that once the skin is warm and red, you stop. Further strokes/strikes onto the same area can leave bruises and welts and can be dangerous. Go with what your partner is feeling.

·         COMMUNICATE!!!! At the beginning, you will need to go slowly. Watch your partner’s reactions, talk about the experience afterwards—it’ll give you ideas for how to improve the next time. If your partner experiences pain, hit lighter or move to a different area.


Source: Albany PowerEx.  
The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible or liable for any injury or damage that may result from actions taken from these suggestions.

Bondage and Role Playing: Nipple Clamps


Nipple Clamps run the gamut from very loose and comfortable to pinching and severe. It is important to start with a beginner set of clamps and work your way up. Beginner clamps are adjustable and put less pressure over time on the nipple, and ensure that the pressure is being spread through a wider area of the nipple.  

Helpful Hints:

·         Applying Clamps: Slide the clamp from the base of the nipple up towards the top of the breast. The clamp should rest against the breast, with the chain loose between the two clamps. When nipples are purple-ish in color or cold, the clamps should be removed.

·         Initial Discomfort: There may be initial discomfort with the clamps as they are applied and tightened. These feelings should pass after 5 min or so. If they don’t subside, remove the clamps.

·         Removing the Clamps: The best and safest way, to remove clamps is to pinch and pull up on the nipple, then slowly release the clamp.


The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible or liable for any injury or damage that may result from actions taken from these suggestions.

 For some people, bondage has a taboo associated with it. Not anymore. A lot of couples are getting into fantasy restraining or sensual flogging. Did you know that if you cover your lover’s eyes and caress their body with a feather, it’s considered bondage? Why continue to use your good silk neck ties? We carry products for beginners who just want to try it out and the rough stuff for the seasoned pros.


Anal Play: Where to begin??

Safety Tips:

  • Use plenty of lubricant! The butt does not self lubricate. There are special anal lubricants, designed to be slightly thicker and longer lasting to aid in successful anal play.

  • Begin slowly – stimulate around the outside of the anus with the lube of your choice.

  • Don’t go from the butt to the vagina - this can cause an infection.

  • Softer textures are easier on sensitive tissue and will follow the natural curve of the rectum.

  • Angle penetrative instruments towards the prostate or toward the g-spot.

  • Do not insert anything that has sharp, pointy or abrasive edges, as they can lead to tearing or rupture of the tissue.

  • Keep anal toys clean and separate from your other toys. Use an anti-bacterial soap or toy cleaner and hot water to wash your toys after each use to ensure you keep them sanitary. You may also use a condom over the toy.

How do I begin exploring anal play? Is it safe?

Anal play is becoming more mainstream and popular among both heterosexual and homosexual couples. The key to anal play is to start small and slow and always use plenty of lubricant, whether you are using a toy or fingers or other objects. Additionally, some people find that utilizing an enema before anal play ensures there is less clean up at the end. But, it is not necessary.

Is anal play painful?

Anal play shouldn’t be painful at all! By starting slowly, and gradually building up your tolerance for larger plugs/dildos/beads/other toys, you will ensure that you experience maximum pleasure and minimal pain. Some people say they experience an initial sensation of pain when a plug is inserted, as the anal cavity widens to accommodate the plug. However, this should be mild and short-lived and can be minimized by using a good lubricant and going slowly. Additionally, avoid using numbing agents, as this can decrease your ability to know if there’s a problem.


Is anal play arousing?

Yes! Some people state that they receive much more powerful orgasms through anal play than through clitoral, vaginal or penis orgasms.

            Most important is to remember to always use a toy with a FLARED BASE to prevent the                toy from sliding all the way into your anal cavity.

 There are many toys for anal play including butt plugs, dildos, vibrators and anal beads. Many toys are also combinations of these types. The key is to remember to start small—both width-wise and lengthwise!!  


What’s with Anal Sex Anyway?

People love anal play because it feels great.  While our society is rife with rumors that anal play is painful and damaging to our bodies, the truth is that butt sex can be healthy and extremely pleasurable.  Our anuses are packed with nerve endings, and they’re the same kind of nerve endings found throughout our genitals: the ones that make other types of sex pleasurable.  Anal penetration is also the only way to stimulate the prostate, the male equivalent of the G-Spot.  To find it, feel the front wall of the anus (toward your partner’s belly button).  It’s about two to three inches inside, and it has a slightly crinkled texture that people compare to the surface of an almond.  Some men can have orgasms from having their prostates stimulated.

If your partner is hesitant to explore their butt, you may have to dispel some of the rumors they've heard about anal sex.  Let’s just address some of the common myths upfront:

  • "It hurts!" Anal sex only hurts if you’re doing it incorrectly.  The majority of us carry a lot of tension in our assholes--the same way we carry stress in our shoulders.  Pain results when an object is forced through tight sphincter muscles, damaging the delicate anal tissues. If anal sex ever hurts, you should stop or take the stimulation back a notch.  Remember--the key to anal pleasure is relaxation and lubrication!  (Please don’t ever use numbing creams for anal sex.  Pain is a warning signal from our bodies that we should take seriously.)

  •  "It gives you hemorrhoids (and/or uncontrollable bowels)!" Most people find that when they start exploring butt play, their anal health improves.  All muscles benefit from the increased circulation that results from exercise and relaxation.

  • "It’s messy!" Although you’re likely to encounter some mess in your anal sex career, it’s probably going to be a lot less than you imagined.  Most anal play engages only the first few inches of the anus and rectum, which do not store feces.  Most people find that a thorough wash in the shower does the trick for removing any surface grime.  If you’re fastidious about cleaning, try an Anal Douche with regular room temperature tap water a couple hours before you play. 


Toy Cleaning and Care

 ·        Non-Porous Materials

 Silicone: Silicone is our material of choice.  Toys made of silicone have non porous surfaces that will clean easily and thoroughly.  Silicone may also be shared safely after washing and disinfecting.  To clean silicone, wash with toy cleaner.  Immersing in boiling water for 10 minutes can disinfect them. Running the toy through the dishwasher on the top rack can also clean silicone. Never use silicone lubricant with silicone toys.

 Glass: Wash with toy cleaner or boiling water.  

 Pyrex: Boil or place in the dishwasher.

 Stainless Steel: Boil, soak in a bleach/water solution, or place in the dishwasher.


·        Porous Materials

 Jelly-Rubber: Jelly-rubber is a porous material that can’t be completely disinfected. While we do not know the exact make up jelly-rubber toys, some have been known to contain questionable chemicals such as phthalates and toluene. Although no conclusive studies have been linked to the chemicals in sex toys with any health risks, we believe the only safe way to use a porous toy is by using a condom.  To clean jelly-rubber toys, wipe with a cloth and warm water then spray with toy cleaner. Let toy air dry.

 Cyberskin:  Also known as softskin, is a delicate material, so be gentle when cleaning it. Cyberskn is porous and can’t be disinfected and many of the materials found in rubber-jelly are found in these toys.  We also recommend using a condom with these toys.  To clean: wash delicately with toy cleaner. Air-dry, and powder with a small amount of cornstarch. Do not use talcum powder. Some research has shown talc to cause cervical cancer. Store cyberskin toys in a plastic bag with a small amount of cornstarch to keep them from getting sticky.

Soft Vinyl: Soft vinyl toys have a smooth, flexible surface that is easy to clean, and typically contain a much lower level of chemicals than those of jelly-rubber toys. We recommend cleaning soft vinyl toys by wiping them with a cloth and warm water and spraying them with toy cleaner.

Hard Plastic: Wipe down with a wet cloth and spray with toy cleaner.

 Acrylic: Wash with warm water and spray with toy cleaner.




Tips For Greater Enjoyment and Longer Life of Your New Toys

  • Remove the batteries when storing vibrators. For longer toy and battery life

  • Never submerge electrical components in water. Use a damp washcloth to clean then spray with toy cleaner to clean electric toys.

  • Protect water-resistant/waterproof vibes by making sure the rubber O-ring stays tight around the battery connection points of your vibes. If the O ring is missing or broken, the vibe is no longer safe to use in water.

  • For vibrators with cords, wrap a small piece of electrical tape around the wire connection point and around the vibrator/wire connection.

  • If you are using a bullet vibe internally, put the toy in a condom and pull it out by the condom, not by the cord.
  • Store toys of different materials separately.



How to Use a Cock Ring

Men enjoy all kinds of sex toys (including vibrators) and one of the staples of their toy box is cock rings. A great toy for solo or partner play, the cock ring is a strip of material or a continuous o-ring designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection. Why wear a cock ring? Lots of reasons! They temporarily create more sensitive, intense and hard erections, and can even help some men delay ejaculation. (Of course, everybody is different, and not all men respond to cock rings the same way. For some, the intense sensations caused by the cock ring make them come faster.)

There are many kinds of cock rings, but if you're new to cock rings, you'll want to choose one that's adjustable and easy to remove

·         Cock rings that fasten. Basic leather or nylon cock rings are great for beginners because they're easy to put on and can be removed in (literally) a snap. Those with snaps, such as the 5 Snap Leather Cock Ring, can fit a bit more securely, while those with Velcro closures are very adjustable and especially easy to remove.

·         Continuous, O-ring-style cock rings. The less expensive styles are great for first-time users. They’re not size-specific (and despite their small size, they do stretch a lot), and they're not too difficult to get on. Some are adorned with small nubs which can give some clitoral stimulation if worn during intercourse.

·         Vibrating Cock Rings. These offer an extra buzz to the penis or testicles and are also great fun during partner sex. They're typically rings with a small vibrating attachment, like the Deep Diver Dolphin Enhancer with Beads or the Screaming O.

·         Cock rings with fancy features. Experienced cock ring fans can delight in more complicated leather rings that include multiple straps, testicle separators, or weights, as well as rings made of inflexible materials like aluminum.  

Get it On, then Get Off!

·         Prep your gear. If you're using a stretchy O-ring, you might want to increase its diameter by putting it over a shampoo bottle for a few hours. Masturbate or fantasize in order to perk up your penis, as cock rings are easier to put on if you're semi-erect.

·         Lube up. Particularly if you're using a rubber or seamless O-ring, put some lube on your penis and balls, so the cock ring will slide on more comfortably.

·         Location, location, location. Cock rings typically are worn around the base of the cock and the balls. You can just wear it on the shaft (and by all means experiment), but cock rings function the most effectively when secured around both the scrotum and cock.

·         Put cock rings on when you're semi-erect. If you've got a solid cock ring, first pull the loose skin of your scrotum through, then drop one testicle through, then the other, and finally push your penis through. If you're using a strip of material that fastens, just gently lift your balls and fasten the strip around the penis and the balls, so it's resting between your genitals and the rest of your body.

·         Masturbate. Once you’ve become accustomed to the sensations your cock ring creates, try masturbating.  If your ring is the vibrating type, you can experiment with pointing the vibrating portion on your testicles for an extra buzz.

·         Share it with a friend. Vibrating cock rings were designed to offer female partners clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Position the vibrator near the top of your cock (or the dildo if you've got a strap-on) so that during intercourse it bumps up against her clitoris. Keep your body down parallel to hers and try slow, shallow thrusts to make sure she receives consistent contact with the vibrator. Or try it with her on top, moving in more of a grinding than up-and-down motion.

·         Get it off. In general, it's best to take off your cock ring after about twenty minutes. Pay attention to the penis; it should never turn cold or go numb (clear signs you've had the cock ring on too long). To remove a solid O-ring style cock ring, you need to be only semi-erect so the ring is loose enough to feed your dick and balls back through. (Applying ice can help take down a stubborn erection.)  Don’t forget to clean your cock ring with some Toy Cleaner or Med Wipes.

The Frisky Biscuit is not responsible or liable for any injury or damage that may result from actions taken from these suggestions.


How to Talk Dirty

Wow. What person doesn’t like a little bit of the naughty talk!  Don’t be fooled into thinking that dirty talking is just repeating certain “nasty” words and phrases. In the hands of a thoughtful lover, hot talk is elevated to an art form. Not only can dirty talk heat up your love life, it can open up avenues of communication about sex in your relationship. And hot talk is an unsurpassed tool to help you explore fantasies through the power of imagination.

  • Find a Vocabulary. One of the hardest parts of becoming a stellar dirty-talker is finding a vocabulary that seems right to you. “Cock” or “Dick” or “Penis?" “Pussy” or “Cunt”?" Or are you looking for different words altogether? Most people find that some words make them hot, while others make them laugh, and others leave them cold. Start thinking about the sexy words that get your engines revving, and start putting those words to use! One of the best tips for getting started is to describe what’s happening when you’re having sex and how you feel about it.  

  • Talk about Sex. Period. If you and your partner haven’t already cultivated communication about sex in your relationship, it will be more challenging to dip your toes into the world of dirty talk. If you have trouble talking about sex in general, dirty talk may not seem like an exciting idea at all. If this is the case, hot talk should be only one part of your developing repertoire for communicating about sex.  

  • Talk about Sex Outside the Bedroom. As you explore dirty talk, you should also be building other ways of talking to your partner about sex outside of the act itself. Our favorite tool for couples' communication is the sex date. Treat yourselves to a fabulous night out and have a chat about your sex life, especially the things you like about it and the things you’d like to try in the future. Outside of your relationship with your partner, it makes a revolutionary difference in both your day-to-day and your sex life to have a community of friends in which it’s perfectly normal to talk about sex.  

  • Practice, Practice. If even the thought of whispering nasty secrets in your lover’s ear makes you squeamish, learning to talk dirty may take some extra dedication and practice. Many people feel uncomfortable when they first begin to hone their dirty-talking skills. Be assured that the more practice you get, the more comfortable you’ll feel. You may need to work on your vocabulary by practicing aloud to yourself. You can make the practice even more fun if you talk to yourself while you masturbate. Or maybe you should start out by writing hot notes to your sweetie rather than speaking aloud.  

  • Shape your Style. The best dirty talkers convey their needs and desires in a way that feels genuine to them. Finding a vocabulary is the first step on the path to finding your style as a dirty talker. There are as many different ways to talk dirty as there are people in the world. And your style can change according to how you’re feeling that day, or depending on your partner, or what particular erotic scene you're crafting. Hot talk can be sweet, sassy, teasing, nasty, commanding, silly, enthusiastic, gentle, dominating, or loving.  Find the words, phrases and attitude that feel right to you!  

  • Research.  Dirty talking is a two-way street. It’s important to take into consideration your partner’s preferences for words and phrases as well as your own. To be a great dirty talker, you need to know your partner’s hot spots. Words that might be offensive to one person will be right on the money for getting someone else’s juices flowing. It’s the difference between calling someone your “sweetheart” or your “sweet little cocksucker.”  You can start sharing your fantasies by taking turns telling each other hot stories. Or, you can even write each other sexy notes.  One of the easiest ways to delve into your fantasy life is to share erotica that you enjoy with your partner, and tell them what makes it hot for you. Or watch a porn video together and talk about what you do or don't like about the verbal repartee.  

  • Surprise! Hot talk is a great sexy tool because it’s so portable. You can take it anywhere with you as long as you’re discreet! Take advantage of a crowded restaurant or bar, a quick private trip in an elevator, or a short talk on the phone to unleash some sexy words on your unsuspecting honey. And expect to be rewarded with some hot sex by the time you make it home.

How To Bend Over Your Man

Over the years we’ve been thrilled to see an amazing increase in the number of couples wanting to explore anal pleasure.  It’s heartwarming to see all sorts of people shopping for dildos and harnesses and exploring an often overlooked center of sexual pleasure.  Just remember to start slowly. The anus is a muscle and needs to “learn” how to stretch. You may want to start with a Prostate stimulating toy at first and then graduate to a harness. Many harness brands make attachments for anal sex. Slow and steady wins the race and remember to use plenty of lube.

The Right Stuff          

So what’s the "right way" to do anal sex?  Each of these steps is crucial to happy butt sex.

  • Relax. Bend-over beginners need to learn to relax the sphincter muscles that ring the anal opening. Learning to relax these muscles can take time--especially after years of neglect or tension. Run your finger along the anus to relax it first. Gently insert lubed finger into the anus. Ask your partner to push out as if trying to have a bowel movement. That will relax the outer sphincter enough to slip in a finger or anal toy. 

  • Communicate. It’s important that the person being penetrated control the pace of play. Nothing should ever be forced or hurried in anal play, and partners should stay in close communication about what feels good--and what doesn’t.  

  • Use lots of lubricant. Don’t skimp on lube! The fragile lining of the anus does not lubricate sufficiently for pleasurable anal sex. Add more lube than you think you need.  Generously lube the anus and your toy, and reapply often. 

  • Go slow. Especially at first, when your toy or finger first enters the anus, your partner will need some time to adjust to the sensation. Check in about what feels good. As they learn to relax their sphincter muscle they'll probably request more vigorous thrusting.


Body Image and Sexiness

From what we hear around the stores it seems almost everyone is plagued by bad body image these days. Don’t let your perceptions of your body cause havoc in your sex life. Your partners with you they must like what they see. Sexy people come in all shapes and sizes. Being sexy is a matter of attitude, and confidence is of the essence. Be kind to yourself, and start getting rid of those voices in your head that critique your body. Sexiness is a self-fulfilling prophesy: if you feel sexy, you are sexy! Visualize yourself and the awesome sex goddess that you are and viola! Didn’t you ever hear you can be whatever you want to be?  Also, remember our logo: Love your body. Love yourself!

The Secret of Sex Appeal

From: eHarmony Advice

The word "sex" may have more explosive connotations and baffling confusion attached to it than any other word in the English language. And the idea of "sex appeal" is just like it. It's got power all right. That may be why you're reading this article. We all want to have sex appeal. We might not agree on exactly what the term means, but if someone accused us of having it, we wouldn't argue with them.

If you have sex appeal, it means there's something about you that makes a person hunger to be as close to you as possible. They want to have their arm interlocked with yours, feel your skin by touching your hand, and, obviously, in time, they want to kiss you and do all the physical things we are all perfectly aware of. There is something so attractive about you that they want to bond with you, literally become one with you.

But this is where we have to think very carefully. Clearly, we like the idea of persons of the opposite sex finding us so appealing that they want to become one with us. What a compliment! But what part of you do they want to become one with—just your body, or your body, mind, and soul? We get nervous and defensive when someone finds just our body appealing—and they don't know the first thing about our mind and soul.

And we should! In the larger scheme of things, our bodies are but a small part of the totality of us. Our minds are thousands of times more complex and unique, and what we call our souls are the deepest parts of us, the parts that are so central to our being that their value to us is beyond words, beyond measurement. Most of us are just beginning to understand our souls a little bit. We have flashes of awareness of how unique our souls are, how they contain all the really precious parts about us, and we literally shudder at the idea of playing fast and loose with this unbelievably masterful part of our identity. We're the only person in the history of the world with the soul we have, and if we gained the whole world, but lost our soul, we would have lost everything.

So, when we talk about sex appeal, we're talking about being someone whose whole package appeals to the kind of person who will relate to the entirety of us. While the place to start may be with our physical appearance, it's only about 10% of the total process. There's not a thing in the world wrong with watching your weight, toning your body, choosing the right haircut, wearing stylish clothes, and following every last rule of physical hygiene. You will make yourself far more appealing physically, and you will already be 10% of the way to a sex appeal that will draw the kind of person you are dreaming of.

And then the fun begins! The next 30% of sex appeal is about getting your mind in shape. The health of your mind has little to do with your intelligence rating. You may have an I.Q. of 90 or a 100 or a 130. At any intelligence level, the critical question is how healthy is your mind? Just as the health of your body is a consequence of what you feed it, how often you exercise it, the amount of rest you grant it, and how you protect it against disease, the same is true of your mind. If you want to have a really healthy mind, feed it good stuff--stimulating reading material, uplifting and inspirational music, challenging conversation about major topics, and time to reflect. And exercise it. Take on some fascinating new reading material about subjects that at first glance seem too much for you. Join some new groups that tax you to your edges. Keep trying new things. As your mind grows bigger and stronger, your sex appeal will literally multiply.

And then, the real secret of sex appeal! You may think it’s an exaggeration, but 60% of lasting sex appeal is all about your soul. There are just three things to do to get your soul healthy. First, get to know it. Go down inside yourself, clear to the center of you, and become a close friend of your soul. This usually requires time alone, time for reflection, meditation and/or prayer. Second, get yourself powerfully loved at the deepest of levels—loved in a durable way, loved unconditionally. And finally, get about the task of becoming unswervingly authentic. Let your soul be at the center of your life, rather than trapped in a dark basement of your being.

We bet you're wondering how this article turned from sex appeal into a discussion of body, mind and soul. Well, because most people fall for the old idea that sex appeal is all about your body. Some of them get (or are already are) physically attractive but go on to neglect their minds and souls. They snag a lot of fish from the sea. And usually, these relationships deteriorate as soon as they got beyond the first 10% layer. On the other hand, wiser people build their sex appeal around the beauty of their bodies, the magnificence of their minds, and the delicacy and vibrancy of their souls—and those relationships are the ones that flourish increasingly over time.  

Sexual Problems and Depression

From: WebMD


If you are clinically depressed and also experiencing sexual problems, you're not alone. Sexual problems, such as erectile dysfunction (ED) or an inability to have an orgasm, often co-exist with depression. The good news is that doctors can usually treat sexual problems that coincide with depression. Sometimes it's as easy as asking your doctor to change your medication


What is the connection between sexual problems and depression?

Think of the brain as a highly sensitive sex organ. Sexual desire starts in the brain and works its way down. That's because of special brain chemicals known as neurotransmitters. These chemicals increase communication between brain cells and trigger more blood flow to the sex organs. The problem is, with depression and other mood disorders, these brain chemicals are imbalanced.

Many men and women with depression tell of having low or no sexual desire. And that puts a tremendous strain on intimate relationships.


Do antidepressants cause sexual problems?

As helpful as antidepressants are in boosting a person's mood or sense of self-worth, some types of antidepressants -- for example, the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) -- have undesirable side effects. Those side effects can result in sexual problems.

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